Comfort has been through a lot. Moving from one relationship to another has toughened her character. Situation moulds our lives. It can break or toughen us. Here she received Rob into her life again. Is this a wise decision? What effect will he have on her.? Is there any future for the duo? Let us wait and see. It is important never to rush into a relationship. My opinion. But some connection can be love at first ..and can last. What works for others may not necessarily work for you. You see some ladies exhibiting aggression towards men, it's as a result of the things surrounding them. Some have been jilted several times. While others have been indirectly affected through friendship, abusive relationships.  There is the need to have emotional intelligence and manage your life in such a way that it would not hurt others.

“You have an angelic voice and you sang so beautifully today. It was ecstatic, I felt lifted to the very heavens, and my heart was rapturously filled. That was pure heaven on earth. Thank you sister for allowing God to use you.” This was the note my pastor, who was not married sent to me after I sang a special number in the church. Debbie, still keeping the note gave it to me I read through it and I felt something was wrong. “What was wrong with this note?” Debbie asked to test my ability to discern. I replied that I cannot lay my hands on it from the note but I felt he had an ulterior motive. “You are very right sis. I’ve been through a lot sis. I was led on by this pastor. Don’t forget he was single then but now married to the right woman.” She continued her story: “that day, on a Sunday. I was moved to sing a song, one of my favourite hymns in the Church.” “When Jesus comes to reward his servants.”

I have discovered that a lot of people need help in relationships. My pastor was no different. He wants to settle down to marry but he is yet to come to terms with reality. The reality is his fiance is dead and can never come back again. He needs to be sure of the right one to take to the altar. I was musing how to help my pastor since it was becoming clearer that I can not marry him, I'm into his life to fulfill a particular purpose. I kept on wondering how to talk to him in a strong way to change. His ministry will be destroyed by women who have no destination, no goal, no purpose. They are to pull down and crumble the plan of God. They are in biblical terms called Delilahs, Jezebels. My eyes were just opened to see he was drifting to hell unless he changes. Having seen my role properly, the next step is to strategize on how to execute it. Having a relationship with another does not necessarily translate into a marriage. You may be a special instrument in the life of such person t

I knew I was pregnant for my blackmailer. As soon as I discovered that I had taken in, I informed him immediately before my dear, innocent husband arrived. I met him in his office, I mean my pastor, my blackmailer." Good morning Pastor, I'm here to inform you that I missed my period sir"  He replied in his usual arrogance, "And what is that to me? "  I screamed at him "I'm pregnant for you! that is the meaning. You are a father a single one at that. When I was resisting you, you ignored and vowed to destroy my marriage and I had no choice but to comply because I never want to lose my husband." He laughed and told me to get rid of him. He left in deep annoyance. I had to devise a plan on how to get my husband to sleep with me. I made sure we were able to sleep together every day for almost two weeks. Turning to the pastor, she said "I'm glad you can know that my last child is your biological daughter, get that into your skull. You wicked man, you have no conscience at all,

The clergyperson is back on track spiritually and the next job for me is to help him get a good wife. I am taking it step by step. But you, Comfort will be wondering how I get into all the stories. It is to tell you to beware of relationships. Rob is just like the pastor, going about with so many ladies and causing a lot of havoc all over the place. You need to know the purpose of your coming as one. It may not be for marriage, not necessarily. It may be that you are to help in the life of the other. Ability to recognize the reason for coming together for a relationship is important to both of you. Having listened intently to my story, think deeply and decide what you are called to do in the life of Rob. "Thanks, Debbie, you sure made my day. I never knew that I will learn so much from you kid sister. You are amazing. Rob is a no-go now. I will fulfill my purpose in his life. We can never marry at all." I told Debbie. Now looking back, I felt sad inside. I needed a